Starting the day with positivity has its own sweet benefits. Your thought flow is self-filtered of negativity and this puts you in a good mood or at least a mood where you don’t want to pick up a fight or scream at someone in the early morning Mumbai rush hour traffic on the way to work. Try it – I highly recommend it, you will feel the difference in the way your day turns out to be.
Friend belief is a foundation which we lay in a relationship or in a person or in god or even in any transactional situation we encounter in our lives. Having belief in others expresses your trust in them and their abilities and this in turn makes the relationship more fruitful as insecurities if any, fade away with that expression of belief. But what about self-belief? We keep doubting ourselves and our own abilities all the time, especially all the more so when we encounter people who may appear to be more intelligent, more knowledgeable and more superior to us in comparison.
When a friend or a colleague moves ahead in some manner, our alarm of insecurity and self-doubt starts buzzing. We feel that we are missing the bus and that we don’t have it in us to move ahead like that person. This lack of self-belief leads us to question every aspect of our personality. We starting going through the “Looser Syndrome” – we feel that we are useless and we will never be able to do anything right in life and we will never achieve any milestone of our life.
But my friends, all these are psychological games our own mind plays with us. There are hidden insecurities and fears deep within our psyche which may have got installed in our memory bank long time ago due to personal trauma or some disturbing incidents which would appear to be normal but would have had a deep impact on us and our confidence levels. So down the line, something triggers these fears and insecurities and these then start manifesting themselves in the form of lack of self-belief and insecurity in all we do in life.
The best way to deal with this is to make up your mind, convince yourself that you have talent and abilities and that you may not be the best, but there are many who are lesser in abilities than you and that you don’t deserve to undergo the “Looser Syndrome” for nothing. You need to tell yourself consciously and subconsciously that YOU ARE NOT A LOOSER.
Keeping this self-belief in yourself firm and staid, you will find that dealing with people becomes a tad easier; especially those who try to put you down or try to show you your inefficiencies. Your belief in your own abilities supports you to endure their attempts to put you down. Although you may still feel a bit down, at least in front of such people, you are able to maintain a brave face and a composed attitude.
All efforts lead to rewards. Your self-belief will also be rewarded – all you need to do is to convince yourself about this. Whether the reward materializes or not, that is another thing, your self-conviction itself acts as a bigger reward because now you have made an image shift of your own persona mentally – from that of being an incompetent looser to that of being confident go-getter who trusts his own abilities and does not want to give up on himself or herself.
This is itself a good place to be in mentally and emotionally. But the icing on the cake is still left. Not only self-belief leads you to good things, but for your perseverance, grit and determination of hanging on and not giving up on yourself, friends, life does have its own way of showing appreciation and only good things can flow thereafter for you. Don’t take my word for it – try it and experience the rewards of positive thinking and self-belief which nature bestows upon you in some way or the other.
I would like to conclude this article by quoting a famous Bollywood dialogue of SRK from the movie Om Shanti Om where he says that “Kisi ko shiddat se chaho toh puri kainath ek ho jaati hain usse tumse milane ke liye” (I am not sure about the accuracy of the dialogue but it was something like this) – the meaning I wish to convey is that if you believe in something with all your heart, mother nature will take all your efforts into consideration and will definitely give you the rewards for the same.
Keep believing because the best is yet to come for you…….
Dr. Rajesh Mankani
